Thursday, March 2, 2017

Coffee Date #8

Hey Friends! Let's have a coffee date. I'm linking up with Kristen and Gretchen for What's New With You, although I have to admit that there isn't all that much new going on with me right now. If you saw my February Check-in earlier this week you'll know that I'm starting to feel a little frayed around the edges as I get deeper into my busy season at work, but I'm trying to stay the course.

So far I am only "a little frazzled."

Today is my 10-year anniversary of living in Colorado! This is approaching the longest that I've lived in one state. [Currently the spot is held by California where I lived until age 12.] While I don't have the right the put the infamous "Native" bumper sticker on my car (although the kids are 5th generation Colorado natives on Jonathan's side!) I do feel very much that this is my home state and I am very happy to have ended up here. I think I might pick up this t-shirt once my six-month shopping ban is over in May.


Something I've been thinking about more and more as Swede's gotten older is how toys and clothes are becoming even more obviously BOY and GIRL. I know there are plenty of gender-specific baby items, but plenty of toys and clothes and books are suitable for everyone. As the kids get older, however, there seems to be less middle ground between princesses and monster trucks. 

It's not that I'm vehemently anti-pink - It's my favorite color too if you couldn't tell by looking at this blog! - But I don't want Swede to feel pigeon-holed into only doing/being/having "girly" things at a young age. Or any age! I am planning to bookmark and re-read this post by Brittany on raising a girl to have a healthy body image every week for the next 20 years

And as Abel grows up I think I'm going to feel the same way about him. I don't want either of them to be limited by stereotypes about what is acceptable for a girl or a boy to do.

Tea parties with Peppa Pig for all!

OH! One more thing - Look! I have an official "reading nook" now and it's fabulous. This chair is a hand-me-down from friends who didn't have enough room for it in their new house, and Jonathan framed and hung this poster he gave me for Christmas, and now... Voila! A cozy little place for me to read and drink tea, dogs and blankets included.


That's all! What's new with you?

18 comments:

  1. Your reading nook is adorable! I can't decide where I want to set something like that up in our house. I need natural light and warmth for my nook. Lol
    I agree 100% about not wanting my future kids to have to do or be or act a certain way because of their gender. I don't like pink and I've always joked that if we had a girl someday I wouldn't tell anyone the gender beforehand so they didn't overload us with pink stuff, lol. But I just want my kids to like what they like without pressure.
    Congrats on Colorado living for 10 years! A whole decade!

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    1. I can tell you that is a great strategy for when you have kids. We didn't find out boy/girl with Swede and so all our newborn clothes (and more importantly, things like car seats/strollers/high chairs) are gender neutral. It saved SO much money to be able to reuse all that with Abel.

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  2. I have a memory of going to buy a bible with my grandparents and wanting a blue one and she made me get pink. It's a bible, so it didn't matter what color it was, but it's interesting to me that it's something I still remember. Love your new reading nook- it looks so cozy. The frazzled image is so cute- hopefully things calm down a little bit soon for you at work.

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    1. Crazy that you still remember the blue/pink Bible debate! I've been thinking lately as Swede gets older that some of the random things happening lately are going to become her earliest memories. So I want to make sure they are good ones! You never know what's going to stick in there forever...

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  3. Yay for the reading nook! I think Colorado is so lovely, but I haven't been in years. Like 10 years..?! Oh my. I love your quest to let your kiddos choose their toys and interests! I think we need more gender neutral ideas in the world. Especially for younger kiddos! I say this as a hard-core girly girl myself! Olivia my sister is turning 10 and I've spent a lot of time looking at STEM toys and other creative/educational things on Amazon for her. I made a big wishlist so I have ideas that aren't just dolls and princesses. :) XO - alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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    1. I guess we just missed each other in Colorado, Haha.
      I think it's great that you are looking at different ideas for your sister, I think it's even more important at that age not to get pigeon-holed into what is "acceptable" for girls.

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  4. When I was younger reading was my JAM (still is)- but especially from maybe age 8-14 you really couldn't get me to do much else, except maybe go swimming in the summer. Anyways, I TORE through mysteries so my Dad introduced me to the Hardy Boys. And I literally ready EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. And thought nothing of 2 brothers solving mysteries, until my Mom told me there was a girl who did the same thing. Cue more obsession, where I real every. single. Nancy Drew book.

    And I think that obviously my parents did a good job because I didn't think that either one of those was weird. It's a shame that industries try to pigeon hole kiddos. Think that's part of why I like reading and the outdoors so much, they seem like a level playing field. Two gender neutral places, at least in my mind.

    Also, this comment feels pretty rambly. Sorry, hope it makes sense... :/

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    1. Definitely makes sense! It is awesome that you read both Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew, and that your parents encouraged both. I agree that reading and the outdoors can be (more) gender neutral places but it's definitely a responsibility as parents to help keep it so - Not encourage "girly" books or discourage getting dirty.

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  5. OOOH, I love your reading nook (and the dog). It looks so comfy and cozy! As for toys, Caleb has mostly "boy" toys, but he does have a pink singing teapot because he loved it when his PT used it, and also a couple of little animal dolls.

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    1. One of Abel's favorite things is Swede's pink Peppa Pig teapot!

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  6. Not only toys but I can't believe the difference in boys and girls clothes! The baby girls clothes often say "cute" or "adorable." Boys get the "handsome" shirts but also get more adventurous ones. I plan to shop from the boys and girls section for clothes. I'm going to check out that post on a healthy body image. I've always worried about that with a daughter, and now I have one. My mom has always put herself down and I've had issues with food for a huge period of my life, so I want to show Ellie a healthy way of looking at things. That reading spot looks totally cozy, complete with dog.

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    1. It is so true about the baby clothes! Girls are pretty and princess and candy. Boys are sports and trucks and adventure. I wish there was more like cute dinosaurs or something. Well - There are but you have to search, and there are often more expensive. I have definitely had my struggles with body image over the years and reallllly don't want to pass any of that along.

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  7. i don't have kids yet but that is something i worry about. i mean, i grew up with brothers, so i played with barbies and gi joes. i was a tomboy who had princess parties (on my own and sometimes with my little brother). i want the same for my kids. so we'll see. i love your reading nook! i want one! so fancy.

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    1. I was the same way with an older brother. I feel like it helps to have a boy and a girl so that both kinds of toys are available.
      I deeply love the reading nook! :-) Such great luck that our friends didn't want the chair anymore.

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  8. Love your reading nook! It looks so cozy. I always read in bed and end up falling asleep ;) I think I need a chair too!

    Thanks for linking up!

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    1. Yes, I always read in bed before too, and still do, but it's nice to have an alternative. Now I'll read in my chair with tea and THEN go read in bed, Haha.

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  9. Love your new reading nook! And your reading companion is pretty cute too ;)

    I definitely want both my children to feel comfortable playing with whatever they please, but it is interesting how Sully now really gravitates towards more "boy" toys (diggers, monster trucks, etc). Although, we did get him a kitchen for Christmas which he loves. But I was at toys r us the other day and for the first time, I really noticed how the ENTIRE store is divided into "boy" and "girl" toys. I don't care who wants to play with a doll, so why does it have to be so divided? What is this division telling our children who come shopping with us in that store? I'm hopeful that since I have one of each, they will both be exposed to "girl" and "boy" toys and not be concerned with which gender they are marketed towards.

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    1. It is so interesting to me how my kids gravitate towards the boy/girl toys. Abel is so much more of a BOY. I wish there was more middle ground though. I think one nice thing about having one of each is that there are always toys for the other gender around so more opportunity to play with everything.

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